5 Signs You’ve Found Your Best Friend For Life
Social media enables us to collect friends, acquaintances, and a network of associates like objects or things. The more friends we accumulate the more successful we appear to others.
Each level of friendship is used for a different purpose in our own lives. Sometimes friendships can be used to fulfill one’s own personal agenda–to get ahead in business, achieve sexual satisfaction, or to make someone jealous.
However, some bad friendships are good for our own spiritual journey and do serve a higher purpose. Those kind of counterfeit friendships teach us what meaningful friendships are. They teach us how to be a best friend to someone else, even though sometimes they don’t reciprocate.
But what does it truly mean to be a best friend?
1. Best Friends Feel Like They’ve Known Each Other Forever.
There is a special kind of love between best friends. The magical merging of two souls that make you feel like you’ve known each other forever even though you’ve only just met. It’s a union that can’t be explained, nor does it need to be defined. Many friendships will be encountered throughout our lifetime and even the greatest of them may only be passing through. But on extraordinary occasions, someone special will make a grand theatrical entrance into your life and will stay until the final act.
2. Best Friends Balance Each Other Out.
Best friends are tethered together like the earth and the moon. They need each other for balance through the ebb and flow of what life throws at them. They help each other stay grounded by the gravity the relationship retains. From the time we are born, friendships are the first relationships we encounter outside of our own family unit. They teach us many lessons about unconditional love, honor, trust, loyalty and commitment.
True best friends create a holy alliance with each other. The relationship becomes a sacred ground where both parties are the gatekeepers to each other’s intimate secrets, fears, and inner most thoughts. And all they know about each other stays locked behind the iron bars that they both guard and protect. True best friends overcome the conflicts of the outside world and never allow those conflicts to clash between them. They withstand negative rumors and betrayals of trust because of the unconditional love they share for one another.
There is a camaraderie of allegiance, compassion, and respect. The relationship between best friends is like an antiquity. The longer the friendship survives, the more valuable it becomes. The friendship becomes ageless over time and kept close to your heart. It turns into one of the very few things in your life that is non-disposable, something that one could never live without.
Through the worst of times, through the best of times, best friends share everything with each other. Best friends are a part of our extended family. They ride the storm and share in the joy that follows after the darkest of clouds have parted. They will stay and bask in the warm sunshine of your own happiness. Best friends honor each other by not putting their relationship above their own self interest. Relationships of best friends are one of the most beautiful miracles in life that we could ever experience. Their problems become our problems, we hurt when they hurt and they always want the best for each other.
3. A Best Friend’s Commitment Can Be Stronger Than Marriage.
Best friend relationships are one of the strongest commitments– They can outlast marriages, estrangements, tragedy, and even survive a distance of many miles between them. One of the most valuable and rarest gifts is having a life long best friend.
Best friends are non-judgmental, accept you as your true self, supportive, and teach us about forgiveness. Its a partnership that needs no contract or ceremonial act to prove it’s worthiness.
They never take each other for granted and you don’t have to prove yourself more than you actually are. Best friends are an extension of your true self and stay close to you like your own shadow. They are always there, whether you need them or not.
4. Best Friends Aren’t Constricted By Social Constructs.
Best friendships do not discriminate. A love like that knows no age, color, culture, economic class or sexual orientation. Best friends see each other as equals and know more about each other than their own spouse or family does.
Each friendship has taught me more about myself than I could ever learn on my own. I always tell my best friend, “You know me better than myself.” I always let my best friend know that no matter what decision they make, if that decision allows them to be truly happy, I will always support them even if I don’t agree with some of their choices.
5. Best Friends Are A Responsibility.
I think we all need to be reminded of the true responsibility of what it means to be someone’s best friend. Sometimes life gets in the way and we forget to thank our best friends and acknowledge just how much they do for us. It’s not a relationship meant to be treated as an expendable item. It’s more than just two people having a conversation and sharing ideas.
There is an openness along with all the childlike innocence it radiates in an unfriendly world. Best friends share their relationship without condemnation and uplift our hearts when our state of being is in chaos. They are each other’s confidant, a shoulder to cry on, and celebrate in each others joys, prosperity and life accomplishments. That’s is what it truly means to be someone’s best friend!
Dear Best Friend! I honestly don’t know what I’d do without you!
Love, Your Bestie 🙂